Trauma Is Not Your Identity

I know that it's worth I did that one sick mask yes it all last time I did that one sick yes that's the side is it all lost it yes I don't want to be Richard Bash Richard Mash it's my life so I tell me I'm my trauma shaped you but it was never meant to define you and today on the Evolve Mastery podcast we're gonna dive into this we're gonna dive into how it has affects how we achieve success how we develop relationships and how we interact and engage with every part of our lives so get ready because this is going to be a powerful episode it's going to be a moment where you can start to gain some clarity about where you are and why you are where you are I'm really gonna start hitting these topics from some different angles than you're probably used to hearing it from and it's gonna be more direct because I want you to start owning your power. But before we dive into this podcast I just want to first off welcome you to this episode of Evolved Mastery. I'm your host Princeton Clark if you're new here and for everyone else who is returning welcome back. I'm really excited about the series and the new direction of the podcast if you're new here we're making some shifts and we're really getting more focused on giving you guys way more value. I have more guests that are going to be coming through a lot of new updates on the evolvemastery.com website. Want you guys to go over and check that out if you are new here and you're kind of trying to figure out where you are whether you're in a seeker phase the builder phase or the leader phase of your journey then go over to the Evolve Mastery website link in the show notes and I want you to check out the free assessment that I have there. I want you to go through and answer those questions and it's gonna give you an idea of where you are based on how you answer those questions you're either going to be in the phase of a seeker a builder or a leader. And I want you guys to take your time go through it and answer it honestly. Read the instructions for how to take the quiz that's gonna be very important. It's gonna be very very important because as I mentioned in the last podcast if you have not checked it out it was on the power of taking ownership. And so we talked about the different phases there's two other podcasts prior to this one you should definitely go back and check both of those out but we're gonna dive into this a little bit more. No matter what phase you grow into as I mentioned in one of the earlier podcasts you're always gonna grow into a new version of you. And that version of you is gonna grow through each one of those phases each new level you're gonna be seeking something. Each new level you're gonna be building something each new level you're gonna be leading something. As you evolve if you continue to do the work effectively and efficiently you're going to evolve and you're gonna meet a new version of yourself. And a lot of the times we think oh I'm a leader now and then we get frustrated when opportunities for us to step into something new or evolve in a new way so that we can lead our lives in a new way come up. Listen you never really arrive you're always in a state of evolution and evolve mastery is all about evolving through life mind, body, soul truly getting integrated within the life that you are divinely manifesting in every single moment. There's never a moment where you are not creating something. As I always say no matter where you are you are always powerful. Whether you are operating in fear or you are operating in love you are operating in doubt worry whatever state you're operating in you're always powerful because whatever you think whatever you speak and however you respond is creating your reality and your life is always mirroring you to you your relationships are mirroring lessons you need to learn your situations and circumstances are mirroring lessons you need to learn opportunities for growth life is giving you opportunities in every single day. And so you'll hear me repeat that a lot on this podcast because I really need you to believe it. I really need you to take ownership of it. But we're gonna go ahead and we're gonna move into this podcast because it's very important for you to understand the identities that you assume and with each new version of you you're gonna meet a deeper level of growth which means you're gonna also meet deeper levels of things that you've grown attached to that you must release in order to grow into the next version of you to manifest that next version of life that next version of experience so that you can create a life that's more and more fulfilling more and more free more and more powerfully aligned with what you say you truly desire and this is what I desire for you guys. And I always tell people the greatest gift that you can give me is to take this advice seek within yourself and do the work because a true guide a true mentor does not lead you follow him or her he leads you back to you he leads you or she leads you back to you to own your power to show up to do the work to evolve to love yourself to take the steps to manifest the life that you have the power to manifest. So we're gonna jump into this podcast as always I'm gonna be here for a good time not for a long time and so today we're gonna be talking about letting go of your trauma identity now I know that we all experience trauma. You know many people have heard my story and they're like man I don't have a story like that. I didn't go through things like that. But let me help you understand something. The deepest level of trauma we ever experience is disconnect from our own soul disconnect from our own power disconnect from the true essence of what we are we come into this world and then we're domesticated to believe lies. We're domesticated to believe what's beautiful, what's ugly, what's right, what's wrong, what's smart, what's dumb. We create all these labels or initially we have all these labels put on us we start to create a framework of belief which creates an identity and then as we grow we start to domesticate ourselves on autopilot. So most of what you struggle with most of what brings you out of alignment is an identity or a belief system that you adopted and then you started creating many personalities or personas around so when you start taking your power back it feels like a tug of war between different versions of yourself from within and this is what creates a lot of frustration and it creates a lot of self-sabotage it creates a lot of disconnect because our soul is calling us back to reconnect to it, to come back to that state of creativity, that state of ownership, that state of inherent truth that says you are a powerful divine creator. And this life is not enslaving you. You've just given your power away you're not where you are because of what happened to you or what didn't happen for you anything else other than what you have chosen to believe and what you have chosen to either give your power to or not give your power to as a free able-bodied adult. And so I want you guys to start taking that power back because your trauma the disconnect from your own spirit is not your identity the lies that you have chosen to believe I'm not good enough. I'm not confident enough I'm not smart enough you know or I am as far as I need to go I don't need to do any more work I just need to be here. No stop creating frameworks that trap you move yourself into a space where your spirit can grow and evolve because again you never arrive and if you ever get to a point where you think you've arrived that's when all hell breaks loose that's when you start experiencing more disconnect that's when you start not feeling fulfilled that's when your relationships start falling apart because your relationships are a reflection of you and if you are not in alignment with yourself your relationship to other people to your business to your any other aspect of your life is going to be impacted by your relationship with yourself your connection to yourself whether your yes is your yes your no is your no whether you are in alignment with what truly is calling you forward whether you are in alignment with the levels of growth that you have the potential to step into all of these things are being called forward so that you can observe them as a divine creator and create the change in your life the growth in your life the opportunities in your life the connections in your life so on and so forth that you have the power to experience that disconnected state regardless of where you find yourself right now whether you're seeking something new building something new or leading something new or being led into one of those phases you are constantly evolving out of an old identity. And this is why you know when people ask me how did you grow so fast? How did you experience all the trauma in your life that you experienced to get to this point where you show up and you're so authentic you speak and you use your voice you show up and it's so unapologetically raw and real how did you get to this point well because I have lived for over two decades putting to work what I'm teaching you now. I stopped trying to show up to align with the former version of myself I let go of the personas and the ideas of self that I had I started waking up each day and seeing each day each new moment as an opportunity to evolve Princeton became nothing more than an idea an idea that I could grow and shift and move and make whatever I wanted him to be because I am the spirit of this experience. I am not the experience I am not this body and because I own my I am presence and I know that on this planet there can be no other version of me I am a one of one an original blueprint I don't show up in comparison I show up understanding that there is magic in me that can only be delivered in a way that I can deliver it. There are gifts in me that can only be unlocked by me. There are experiences in me that can only be manifested by me in the way that I can and so because I started honoring that truth as a creator I started showing up in a powerfully divine way which set me apart. I began to love my life I began to love my challenges I began to love my opportunities for growth I began to love the mirror even though it didn't always feel good because I let go of the disconnect I let go of the lies I let go of the beliefs around trauma that I had experienced and I gave myself permission to live despite those things. I gave myself permission to show up despite those things I didn't believe or give power to the belief that I was a victim anymore. I didn't give power to the belief that it was going to be hard. I didn't give power to the belief that it was for some people but not for me. I didn't give power to any belief that was out of alignment with what my soul was showing me was possible for me. So I continue to show up every day and this is what I want to challenge you to do. This is why I create the containers that I create I have the six week master reboot program that's coming up on May 4th and it's gonna be going from May 4th every Monday at 9 a.more because you know Arizona time zone doesn't change so right now even though it's mountain time we're in alignment with Pacific time it's gonna be 9 a.m and it's gonna run for six weeks every Monday at 9 a.m and we're gonna dive into rebooting reconnecting and understanding where you are see I create containers like this so that people can grow so that people can evolve so that people can experience what it's like to fully take your power see because many people most people have never been in a container where they see someone operate in a way that challenges them to believe and to be inspired that it's possible for them. And this is what my calling my purpose is in this world it's to wake up other souls so that they stop living a traumatic life disconnected from their own soul because you were created to be more do more operate in more and to manifest more in your life so that you could be a light in your industry so that you could be a light in the relationships so that you could be a light in how you raise your children so that you could be a light in how you show up in the world and the more of us that begin to do this the more of us begin to show other people that it's okay to own this power it's okay to live in this truth it's okay to operate in this wisdom it's okay to be free it's okay to be you no matter where you find yourself right now and I know that it's hard I know that it's challenging if you're listening to this podcast your soul already knows that you're being called for more your soul already knows that you're capable of more. Your soul already knows that you've outgrown where you are because life is all about evolution and I know for a fact I don't just attract just any type of person. If you're listening to this podcast if you're attracted to my work it's because something in you is ready to evolve my vibe attracts my tribe I'm speaking a language that your soul already understands because ultimately energetically we're all one and when you start operating according to certain frequencies you start attracting certain frequencies or those situations, circumstances and people are aligned with the frequency that you are being called into or that you are being given an experience to operate in or be revealed to so that you realize you can step into it too. We're all powerful going back to what I said in the beginning where you are right now no matter how you show up you're always powerful. No matter what you think speak and do you're always powerfully creating even if you do nothing you're powerfully creating from doing nothing. So you might as well do something you might as well show up you might as well use your voice you might as well let go of those relationships that don't serve you. You might as well walk away from that business that is no longer in alignment with where you're going that's holding you back from being the fullest version of you. You might as well take that step and take that risk because if you're willing to risk everything to be the most powerful version of you I promise you your life is going to start mirroring how you show up the doors are going to start opening because of how you show up and if I can get you to that place and you can move yourself and step into it fully and wholeheartedly it will shift every state of your life it will shift every experience in your life you don't have to stay where you are. You don't have to settle I used to think all these things like people hear me now but they don't understand that when I first got started to speak for 15 minutes it scared me so bad I was one of those people that thought who am I to think that I can share this message with someone and one of my mentors told me you're listening to people who've been doing this for years but the one thing none of these people will ever have is your story. None of these people will have is how you grew through your experiences and what led you here. The moment you own your voice you're gonna be able to unlock a power but unlock a connection also to people that is rare because you have something different in you that nobody else on this planet has. And you're gonna be able to inspire them to tap into that something within themselves that faith that courage that confidence that belief that you were born to be great regardless of what your circumstances say regardless of what your upbringing was like matter of fact there's people out there going through just one of those things and the moment you decide to set yourself free you begin to give them permission to set themselves free. This is what I'm here to do. I'm not here to talk to everyone else I'm here to talk to the people who have something in their soul that's nudging them and pulling them and calling them forward because they are here to be leaders in this world. They are here to show up in a way it's a reason why you've been a black sheep. It's a reason why you've never felt like you fit in it's a reason why you feel like an alien in this world it's a reason why no matter how much success you've achieved you still haven't felt fulfilled it's because something in you is calling you to be more something in you is calling you to rise because you are so special. If you are listening to my voice right now I need you to close your eyes and I need you to feel this in your spirit you are so special but you have been listening to the lies of the trauma the deepest trauma and that's disconnect from your own soul and it's created many identities. And that's why when you go to grow those personas that you've created your entire life just to survive start to war against this belief. And this is why you gotta start to cast down these beliefs. You have to start speaking over yourself and not just doing affirmations but doing incantations and incantation is when you don't just say the word you get up and you force your body to feel that it's true. You get up and you start to speak it out loud but you own it in your presence you got to take back your power you got to take back your voice you got to take back your mind you got to take back your heart. See I always tell my clients I taught meditation for six years but I always tell my clients that true healing is when you wake up and realize that nothing is wrong with you. Yes you may have had some tough experiences in your life yes you may have grown through some things that challenged you that caused you to shut down because of the identities and the survival mode and mechanisms you had to use and operate in just to get through those seasons. But what I'm telling you at a soul level right now is that it's time for you to drop the masks it's time for you to drop those beliefs it's time for you to drop those things that that you chose to operate in to get to where you are see some of you have created massive success and you've gotten to this point where you don't even feel fulfilled you're just constantly moving from this thing to the next thing and now I'm building this thing and now I'm building this thing. Guess what that's an identity that's an identity you've built your entire business you've built your entire identity you've built your entire identity around what you achieve you've built it around performance. A lot of successful people I've worked with six seven and even eight figure earners who were not fulfilled because they were living in a performance identity they had promised themselves they had worked so hard they had built and built and so they were living off the dopamine of success and results but not living off of the connection to their soul that felt fulfilled in every single moment because they get to create this life. Their relationships in many cases were falling apart. In a few cases they were on the verge of committing suicide but from the outside they look like they had everything going for them the stuff that most people dream of. It doesn't matter where you are whether you're just starting a business whether you're just beginning a relationship whether you created massive success we're all growing through three different levels as we meet new versions of ourselves the seeker the builder and the leader. And so like I said at the beginning of the podcast I want you to go to my website evolvemastery.com I want you to check out the free assessment. I need you to answer it honestly even if it doesn't feel good even if your current identity doesn't believe it's where you are I need you to really sit with each question because these questions are specifically designed to test where you are and if you try to lie to yourself or if you try to push through it as if you are the identity that is bringing that fulfillment in each one of those layers you're gonna get the wrong answer. So I really need you to sit with it and it's gonna it's designed to challenge you. But go check it out. It's free and it's gonna give you a full breakdown once you finish the quiz once you finish the assessment and so there's also a free video about alignment that you can get and all you have to do is go and you'll see all of that there. But like I said all the links to my website my books everything it's in the bio and so I want you guys to check it out. And if you're listening to this podcast I also want you to find me on Instagram shoot me a DM follow me shoot me a DM I want to hear from you. I want to hear what you thought about this podcast. I want to hear what you're receiving. Maybe there's some challenges that you're experiencing where you are and maybe there's some topics you want me to talk about on the podcast. Maybe you say I think I want to get coaching I've never really worked with the coach before but I'd love to hear more about this thing. Maybe you're at a place where you're like I want to invest in a coach but I've been taken advantage of so many times or I haven't been given exactly what I've been seeking. So I need to hear a little more maybe you're in that place. Listen this is why I do the podcast to offer you value because I believe in you. I know that there's something special and like I said if you're here it's because you're being called For more. If you're here, it's because your soul is ready to evolve, but you have blind spots and you've hit an identity ceiling. And that ceiling is keeping you stuck where you are. That ceiling is keeping you in a place where you don't feel fulfilled and you don't feel free. You don't feel truly connected. You feel alone. You feel disconnected in so many different ways that you have a hard time even putting it into words. And you've been wearing a mask. Many of you have been wearing a mask for so long that you feel like you can't even be authentic and share with people where you really are because you've put on this mask, like you are somewhere that you're not. Or maybe you're this happy person, but on the inside, you're not happy. You're having sleepless nights. I could go down a list, guys. But understand this. The reason I know this is because I've been there. I've been there. But it's time for you to let the trauma go. It's time for you to get back to your soul. And one way that you can do that is I want to challenge you. I want you to look at every part of your life and write these things down. When something pops up for you and it feels like it's creating tension, I want you to write it down in your journal. This blank is creating tension in my life. And the way that I think about it is this. And then I want you to ask yourself, why do you think about it that way? Why do you think about it that way? I want you to start developing a higher level of metacognition, which is the highest level of intelligence. Metacognition is thinking about your thinking. When you can get good at thinking about your thoughts and why you're thinking what you're thinking, you can actually change what you're thinking in real time through experiential operation. What do I mean? When you can think about what you're thinking and you can look at it and ask yourself, is this bringing me more peace? Is this bringing me more love? Is this bringing me more joy? Is this bringing me more clarity? Or is it disconnecting me more? Is it making me become afraid? Is it moving me into fear? If it's moving me in the negative, and understand this, it takes less than a millisecond for one negative thought to become a snowball of negative thoughts. So when you sit there and you're like, okay, what am I thinking? Why am I thinking it? And what would be the positive opposite thought that I could think right now instead? And so think of it in this frame. If you want to reset your state, this is an acronym that I always teach, and I've heard a few different people teach it, but it's so powerful. And it's called AI, A-I-R. The A stands for aware, the I stands for interrupt, and the R stands for reframe. And I want you to imagine a breath. I want you to imagine a breath. Pause in a moment. You guys hear me talk a lot about the power of breath and how the word spirit in Aramaic is rucha, which means the breath or the wind. A lot of us are disconnected from our spirit, and you can always tell when you're disconnected from your spirit because you're tense, you're breathing very shallow, you don't take deep connective breaths. You don't pause. I always say practice box breathing. That's a four-count inhale, a four-count hold, and then a six to eight count exhale. And do rounds of about four to six of those box breaths. Let your spirit, your breath, back into your body. So, air, as you begin to breathe, I want you to become aware of what thoughts you are thinking. Because where your focus goes, your energy flows. Emotion is just energy and motion in the body put into motion by what you're thinking. So if I'm thinking negative, I'm doubting, worrying, or in any state of fear, I start breathing very shallow. I stop connecting to my body because I'm so into my head that I get out of my heart. And a lot of people don't realize this, but that's traumatic to your soul. It's traumatic to what you are as a powerful divine creator. How can you create with the full force of what you are if you're not connecting to it? Think about that. How can you connect to the full force of what you are if you're not connecting to it? So I want you to become aware. What am I thinking? And then I want you to interrupt it. And how you interrupt it, get up and start moving your energy. Do the positive opposite. Get up, start moving your energy, and get clear. What's a more positive opposite thought that I could be thinking right now? Perfect example, simple example, is when people are thinking, what if it doesn't work out? The positive opposite would be, what if it works out better than I could have ever imagined? If it worked out better than I could ever imagine, this could happen and this could happen, and this could happen. What this does is it starts re-igniting your imagination. Your imagination leads to manifestation. See, a lot of the times you are imagining the worst. You are imagining disconnect. You are imagining loss. You are imagining any other negative outcome, it disconnects you from your soul, pulls you out of the present moment. Now you're in a spiral, and now you're only focused on everything that's wrong. But if you can interrupt it and begin to imagine what if the door opens? What if people show up? What if I meet that person? How will I be showing up? How will I feel? Ooh, I'll feel this way. I'll feel so much joy. Interrupt that old identity and that old thinking and reframe it. See, because as you're doing it, you are reframing your energy because you're reframing your thinking, and now you're reframing your identity. So always think air. When you feel tight, when you feel like you don't have clarity, when you feel tense in your body, take a breath, reconnect, do the box breathing, become aware, interrupt it, reframe it, and move the energy in a new direction. I challenge you to do that. I promise if you do that, that that's just one practice that I teach my clients out of many. But as you begin to navigate through these things, you begin to shift your identity. And little by little you begin to cancel out all the identities and personas and the masks that you've been wearing to the point where there becomes only one. And that oneness becomes your center point. And what happens after that is it becomes very easy to recognize when you're shifting or being pulled off of that center point. And the more you develop this awareness to observe, okay, what am I thinking right now? I am not my thoughts. I am not what happened in the past. I am in a brand new moment right now. What I think right now is creating an energy in my body. That energy in my body is creating this feeling, putting energy into motion. I don't like this feeling. So as much as I want to get out of it, I have to take a step. I have to take action. I have to take my power back and I have to respond differently. And so as I begin to do that, what I'm telling my body, my soul, my mind is that it's safe to be free. It's safe to break free. It's safe to honor me. It's safe for me to do the thing that is most in alignment with me, where there's a lack of information or experience in doing something new. So when you go to step into something new, when you go to reset, when you go to practice these practices or put them into work, you will feel fear initially. Fear is my best friend. Fear is just an alarm system from my soul, letting me know I am stepping into something new. One of my favorite quotes, and you guys have probably heard me say this if you've been with me. If not, you're hearing it for the first time. But one of my favorite quotes is if you change the way you see things, the things you see will change. And so what I want you guys to start doing is when you feel tense, if you're in a place in your life right now that's not in alignment where you're seeking and building something new or beginning to lead something new, I want you to begin to take your identity back by changing the way you look at it. Take your power back. You only see it that way because you choose to see it that way. You only communicate that way because you choose to communicate that way. And you only operate that way because you choose to operate that way. You always have the power to create change in every single moment. You have free will. You can willfully choose to be different, to be new right now. But are you willing to become aware enough to interrupt it so that you can reframe it, shift into a new identity so that you can start manifesting and creating something new in your life? So I'm gonna leave you guys with that. I want you to really think about that. Are you willing to become more aware to interrupt and reframe this identity that you've been assuming? This disconnect that you've been assuming. Are you ready to let go of that deep trauma of disconnect from your own soul? Like I said, I've been through abuse, I've been through molestation, deep depression, a failed suicide attempt, alcoholism, drugs. I've seen things living a gang-related lifestyle that most people only see on TV. But because I made a decision at the age of 23, after a failed suicide attempt, to step into something new, to shift my identity, that night, that week, I began to become something new. And what you hear now is the full expression of what it means to honor the new identity and awareness of a divine creator. I am living unapologetically in alignment with what I have been called to operate in because I am a divine blueprint, and so are you. And I'm here to wake that blueprint up in you. So if you are ready, get connected with me. There's a lot of new things that are coming up. I have a retreat that's coming up this year in August. More information is gonna be released on that. But if you want the basic nuts and bolts of the retreat and what it's gonna be all about, go over to my website and check it out. If you're looking for some reading material, I have three books you can check out. And I have the master reboot program that's gonna be starting on May 4th. Right now, it's$3.95, but you can also do a split payment and do two payments of$210. So you have an opportunity. There are ways you can connect, and there's other things. Take the assessment first, get to see where you really are. After you take that assessment, watch the free video and then go through the website. Start to read. I share my journey. You can go to the about page, and there's so much on there. I want to give you guys more space to grow, more space to evolve. And this year in Arizona, if you're in Arizona or maybe you're somewhere else across the world or in the States, I'm gonna be hosting the Arizona Growth Con where you're gonna get to come out and you're gonna get to experience a lot of this. I'm bringing in several of my friends who I've had the pleasure of meeting with, connecting with, and aligning with, and they're gonna be speaking and sharing. And I promise you it's gonna be one of the most powerful, most connective events that you've probably ever been to in your life. All that new information will be dropping, and that'll be going up on the website here soon, probably within the next week or so. So stay tuned. Make sure you check the link frequently and subscribe to the podcast. If this inspired you, if this spoke to your soul, like it, review it, subscribe to it, share it, let other people know that this type of information is out there. Again, my goal is within the next couple of months, I'm gonna impact thousands of people. But my goal is to take my podcast to the next level where it's impacting millions. And that's my goal 2027. 2026 is all about growth, impact, more love going into the world, more impact going into the world, more connection going into the world. And I'm building a tribe of people who are ready to rise with me, who are ready to be this light, who are ready to be powerful. And if that's you, I'm calling you forward to stand with me as we walk together because my vision is so big, I know that I cannot achieve it alone. I need other people around me who are ready to make this movement a reality because this world needs more love. It needs more powerful people ready to be powerful. But guys, listen, I love you, I appreciate you, I call you forward, rise with me, stand with me, and get connected. And if you enjoyed this podcast, go to my website. You can send me a direct email, and I'd love to hear from you. But the best and fastest way is to follow me on Instagram at Princeton Clark. Again, my one main link in the show notes. Shoot me a DM, let me know what you thought, let me know where you're struggling so that I can create content that you can listen to that'll help you take one step after the other towards manifesting that reality so that you can truly wake up and realize that there was never anything wrong with you. You just forgot who you were and you forgot what you are. And it's time to wake back up and to own what you are. All right, guys, thank you for tuning into this episode of Evolve Mastery. I appreciate you. I love you as always. Let's keep rising, let's keep growing. And until the next episode, rise, breathe, become aware, interrupt, and reframe so that you can manifest the life that you truly desire. I'll talk to you guys again soon.